Hello and Happy New Years
I wanted to jump on and talk a little bit about new year's' resolutions. I know it's a popular phrase this time of the year. Let me just say I don't believe in New Years' Resolutions because it has become so generic and they slip off our tongue like butter but also die just as quick. If I decide to do something to better myself I've learned to start when it first comes to me. I will not eat like a elephant in November and December and start the diet in January, February, or March that I should have started in November. During the holiday season you say?, yes. Learn to implement the project or task when it first comes to you. Our good decisions are usually snatched away by mental distractions or forgetfulness. Once again, when the brilliance hits get to work right away. There is a reason. This was an extra nugget and not even the point of this blog but it's good nonetheless.
On to my point, If you are really serious about making any time of change, upgrade, or project you need a mentor. You may say why and I would ask how did the last new year's resolution go? The mentor is not to tell you what your doing wrong or there to always breathe down your back. The mentor is designed to help you achieve what you said you wanted. The mentor is really a servant to you and a teacher at the same time. They support, sharpen, upgrade, and hold you accountable to make sure you succeed. The only benefit the mentor gets is seeing you win and seeing all your hard work paying off. They listen when the challenge becomes greater and it feels like kryptonite and your Superman. Powerful in all things except this hurdle. The Mentor can be the antidote to your kryptonite.
The mentor will perfect what your trying to achieve but only if you allow it.
Get a Mentor! Get an Accountability Partner! Get a Coach! A Good Friend or Family Member! So Somebody not Anybody!
Don't Depend On Yourself Alone.
I Promise It Will Be Good!
Fyi this is a God post. From time to time I will submit just how favorable God is to me and prayerfully it will remind you that God is favorable towards you as well. So, here we go.....
I was in a quiet space with God at the end of last week and He began to encourage me about my identity. He reminded me that I should only be concerned about what He has said and called me to be and not to be overly concerned about what others have to say. I had no idea the challenges I would face on multiple levels about this particular subject. I appreciate God so much because He always has a habit of giving me the heads up, at least as much as I can receive at the time. Life can be bone crushing and it's good to have a net (God) to catch those broken pieces and put us back together again. We should all strive for wholeness. We should always want to make sure that if we're bruised we can be healed. If we're burned we'll overtime heal as if the burn never existed. If our hearts are crushed there is a safe place of comfort for our hearts to heal. If our mental space has been distorted we won't lose our minds.
The faithfulness of God is amazing and I prefer on my own based on personal experience to serve, trust, love, and obey Him. As far as I am concerned His track record is spot on.
Give yourself permission to believe BIGGER about yourself. For every negative word someone has to say to you say something powerful and inspiring about yourself. Don't let that mess spoken over or in your life sneak in like a snake and begin to subconsciously manipulate you into thinking you're less than, not even for a second. When people say stupid stuff about you and laugh it off and say I was just kidding, CORRECT THEM RIGHT AWAY. When people do the most when it pertains to your personality and character you go bigger and better. Start running down a list of just how awesome and powerful you are. I don't care if you hear it every day for a week, month, or a year. It is a lie. God calls you beautiful and loved.
I titled this blog "damage control" to remind you that damaging things will occur in our lives but it can be controlled. It will come but we can overcome it.
This week was tough for me. I felt like my identity was being attacked by some important people in my life. I couldn't sleep. I had a tension headache that was massive whenever I thought about the situation. I cried more than I care to admit. I became angry. My heart felt like I was having a heart attack. I was really feeling a psychological break.......
I could say I'm better but I'm probably just hiding it right now. I've had a couple breakthroughs but then I get smacked down again like a bully who hits you and dares you to get up and when you try they keep stumping you back to the ground; so I'm just really all over the place mentally but does that mean that God is not there? He is ALWAYS present. When I am angry and highly overwhelmed I am incapable of hearing God because I've basically slammed the door in His face because anger is the fat lady in the room and in my head. But the faithfulness of God. He will somehow have me sit still long enough and take a few breaths, rest, and just release my frustrations. He reminds me of the quiet time I had with HIm earlier in the week and I begin to acknowledge that truth over my life, that regardless of what others say , I am affirmed by God and my identity is settled in heaven by Jesus Christ Himself. .
ACKNOWLEDGE GOD'S TRUTH OVER YOUR LIFE EVERY DAY!
Good Day to everyone!
If you don't know this about me yet you will soon find out that I am very big on living consciously! Most of the things we do on a daily basis, about 75% of it is done subconsciously. I can't say whether it's a good idea or not but the merits speak for themselves.
I didn't really feel super great yesterday, kinda in a funk for no apparent reason that I was conscious off but of course we go through the mundane functionalities of the day with highs and lows and nonetheless get through the day without any major incidents. I pissed nobody off. I gave no smart remarks (maybe to my husband), engaged as an adult should and had a dinner/meeting without a hitch. The food was fantastic and so was the company. After a very productive time with the ladies and overeating because I am a foodie, I go home to rest which is what I said I was going to do but that never happened. Now mind you, I wasn't feeling well all day and extremely tired but after a long day I decide to clean my office, log business expenditures into the computer, paint my office, clean out my purse, and put away laundry and by now it's about 3am in the morning and I'm suppose to get up at 4am to go to work. What Was I Thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CALL OFF!!!!
So I'm finally woke at 11:00 with a terrible headache and I'm trying to shake it because I have a lot I would like to accomplish with this extra day I have taken but nonetheless it persists. Quite naturally when I think headache I think food. I scramble eggs because I love eggs and take my meds, headache still persist but whatever the day goes on.
Now I'm feeling like I need to force my day because it's starting to feel like yesterday, and if I had to describe my position it would mostly cloudy with periodic sun. Now I need to change my personal weather forecast. But how you may ask, I sit for a few seconds and I let the reasons I was born just come rushing into my spirit. I just sat and my purpose began to swell up in me. It refreshed and rejuvenated me. I put a spark in my eye. It got the blood pumping in me. It is the reason I am writing this blog right now. I was created to inspire, encourage, illuminate, brighten, and motivate others to really live a life worth living and if I'm not for one day somebody else may not. I must wake up every morning with a passion, a zeal, an energy to say that I'm giving this life that was given to me the very best version of myself today hell or high water I'm putting it all on the line because I just may have what somebody needs today. You may have just what somebody needs today.
Through caution to the wind and find something and someone worth living for.
We are all created as instruments by God to be used.
Be Used Today!
Just wanted to leave a few words of encouragement with you today
I know the world will always tell us what we are doing wrong. You said this wrong! You said that wrong! Your tone was a little rough. Did you know you said that to me as if I was your child?!
Why is it so easy to tell people what they've done wrong but will hesitate to give a compliment. Hesitate to say job well done. Hesitate to say you've inspired me. Hesitate to say you've encouraged me? Just some food for thought!
For every compliment you didn't get, job well done. For every affirmation you needed, you are awesome! You are worthy of love! You have a beautiful smile! You are worthy of the sun, moon, and stars! You are worthy of value! You deserve the best life has to offer you and don't allow anyone to tell you anything different. Stop them dead in their tracks if they try to speak against your future! Don't take that garbage into your spirit, soul, mind, or heart. It's a lie from the pits of hell!
May these words give you the strength to get over the past and present hurdles of life is my prayer for you!
Grow! Bloom! & Blossom!
You are Worthy!
So this came to me today, after being extremely busy for weeks and weeks and weeks I've come to a slow point and I look at my car on the inside and it is disgusting. Candy wrappers, straw wrappers, bills receipts, invoices and all manner of foolishness everywhere. So I make the decision that I should start cleaning out the car and usually the first thing I do is get rid of the big stuff, it's the easiest to do. I took the task head on and started cleaning out the big stuff immediately and at this point I'm feeling pretty good about myself. Not having my coffee for the day I decide this is a good stopping point to have my Dunkin Donuts and as I got ready to drive off with my coffee in hand, I grab the straw and immediately throw the straw wrapper on the passenger seat and quickly think to myself how easy it is to accumulate the things you just got rid of. It's easy to get clean in any area of your life but staying clean is another dimension. If you want to stay clean clean up behind yourself. Don't do it in an hour. Don't do it when you get in the house. Don't do it after you've run your errands. Do it right away while it's fresh in your mind and stay clean. Don't leave your trash for somebody else. If you started it, fix it. If you created it, finish it. If you drop the ball pick it back up. If you made the mistake make it right. If you threw the first punch apologize. If you threw shade consider your role. If you're feeling misunderstood talk about it.
If you never stay clean you'll continue to keep starting over and over and over again and never truly gaining territory.
Let's stay clean and make some strides by cleaning up behind ourselves.
You know you made that mess, now clean it up
Hey Everyone, Sorry I didn't do a blog last week but I was so busy but I'm back!
What are some of the things we know about gifts? Typically, gifts are free. They usually come from people who like us most of the time and they are valuable. It didn't cost us anything to attain it. Now let's consider for a minute, are we gifts? We? You and I, are we as individuals gifts? Are we valuable? If we give ourselves freely over to others are they better off? Does the recipient feel pleased and excited? Let the record of God show that you are a valuable gift actually priceless.
Do we know we're valuable and try to hide our usefulness as in hide-n-seek or are we clueless to our status? Have we not understood that it is an honor to be used and considered a gift? Are we only seeing the trees and not the forest? Are we only seeing the time and work spent and haven't envisioned the long term effects we'll have on people? We often feel used when we should feel invigorated, inspired, and in anticipation for the reward that will surely come. If we see no reward we should consider our motivate.
Feel freedom, excitement, and joy with the fact that God would gift you so bountifully that everybody wants a piece of you. Don't feel used. In the words of my Apostle, "man can't use you only God can".
What would the world be like if everybody used their God-given gifts freely without restriction?
Until next time.....
In life there will always be weights. Weights of the mind. Weights of the heart. Weights of the body. Weights that come from other people and the list goes on. But if I had to put it in a category of good or bad, I would chose the good side. I believe weights should be working more of an advantage in/and for our lives as opposed to a disadvantage. I also believe that weight should better define who we are and our weight capacity. Where do we max out at? Is there a minimum weight scale that is so light that it is useless and feels pointless? I sometimes feel this way when I'm working out. Some weight are just too light and feels like a waste of my time. It's like I'm lifting air with no resistance. However, if I add maybe 10 lbs I can feel resistance and feel like my body is benefiting from the work-out. In life the weights your carrying should be a benefit to you always. You should not feel better, you should be better.
Weights in life should shapen you mental capacity. When weights arise in any form we should be able to think deeper and more creatively or grab someone to help. Weights should remind us of how awesome we are. Weights will mind us that we can overcome anything. Weights flex our muscles for the next weightier matter.
Now you could focus on the negative but why? It's overrated!
You don't even know your true weight capacity but just keep walking the journey you'll find out!
Until next time,
If a lot of people say the same thing about you and they don't know each other, it's true. Why you getting mad, don't you want people to be honest with you? Wouldn't you like more options and opportunities in life? There are probably many people who have passed you by, not because you couldn't do the job because they've seen your work but your character is flawed. Now to you, you can't see it, can't believe, and in your mind it just could not be true, but maybe it is. Most of the time it's based on past experiences, childhood traumas, suppression of traumatic events, and subconscious reactions that have not been dealt with. It's not to harm you but to set you free.
LET THE TRUTH SET YOU FREE
My final thought would be:
Don't take it personal, it's to help you; to let the doors once closed began to open up in every area of your life.
AREN'T YOU DUE FOR AN UPGRADE
P.S. IT IS TRUE AND IT'S OK
As you already know by now, each week I drop a nugget that will either help or encourage on the path to living your best life in all areas of your life and this post will be more of the same.
Last week I decided it was time to do another promotion for my book and for me it makes me a little fearful and intimidated. I had actually been avoiding it all week long but it seemed like Friday was the day to bite the bullet and go for it. So, there I went sending out text messages and messengers reminders. To those who didn't respond, it was ok no problem.
Initially in my mind I thought I would be bothering and annoying people by promoting my book but to my surprise there was one response that really blessed me, she stated, "thanks for the reminder", I never thought anyone would consider my promo a reminder but it just showed me that my perception needed to be adjusted. As a result of my decision to move full speed ahead and pull back I was able to sell some books and received some promises to purchase some books the following week.
You have to know when to pull back and when to move head and your decisions can't be based on people's opinion, fears, and nos. It must only be done through discernment. I am blessed because I didn't give into my fears.